Kill Pornography

Follow these 4 Steps to Kill Pornography before it Harms You!

It is not usual for me to sound this harsh but the reality is that one of the above has to happen for someone reading this post. I accept it is a contentious topic but I feel obliged to write about it for these reasons;

  • I believe God wants me to share these thoughts with people.
  • Unfortunately, the Internet / Mobile phones have made pornography very cheap and easy to reach, which makes this imperative.
  • Finally, I believe that history will judge me if I do nothing and act like nothing is wrong.

I have shared so much about how the Internet is indeed a blessing to humanity whether on Tech Trends, ICT Clinic, Techwithcfa.com and on this blog you would find loads of steps and strategies that can help someone go from nobody to somebody, like I have done iin the last couple of years. Its been an amazing experience for me and to cap it all, I recently got a page on Wikipedia which is by no means a mean feat depending on how you look at though 🙂

Despite all the positives that I can reel out about the Internet, I must say that it has loads of dark sides, one of which is Pornography. I received the leading to write this post a few months ago after I discovered during a routine web strategy research that porn sites are among the top 100 sites being visited by Nigerians the most. It was indeed a shocking discovery to me for a number of reasons, that was when it dawned on me that I should at least write and get people informed so that he who has ears, can choose to hear and seek help while he still can.

Furthermore, I recently watched on Faith channel, the clips of a young guy that was delivered by God from addiction to porn which gave me the courage that my rantings might help save one or two people.

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Reasons why you should deal with Porn Addiction Now

I’d have gone on to write about the reasons you should avoid being addicted to porn by all means but instead of that I’d rather refer you to a Punch Newspaper report titled “Beware! Pornography dulls the brain, kills libido” which has a lot to share about this subject, make sure you read the full report.

Here are some excerpts from that report:

According to the study, published on medicaldaily, having sex and watching pornography cause dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for learning, reward, emotions and pleasure, to be released in the brain.

The researchers noted that the more porn a person watches, the more the dopamine that is released, which makes the brain to be desensitised to its effects, which could reduce their decision-making capabilities. Young people who watch porn frequently were also found to have reduced likelihood or tendencies to venture into risk-taking ventures.

The leader of the researchers, Simone Kühn, noted that men who view too much porn may become lazier than others and that their research provided strong evidence that pornography might harm the brain in some ways and change its size.

A physiologist, Gary Wilson, said the addiction from pornography creates a constant need to feel that strong stimulation to watch it some more, thereby needing more dopamine, which could wear out the brain. He added, “Sometimes, the brain gets worn out and halts the production of dopamine, which leaves the viewer in quest for more satisfaction with the inability to reach it. This can provoke the viewer to seek out more intense porn to get high. As a result, it can give a person a reason to watch more porn, which is why addictions are difficult to break.”

I need not say more other than re-echo the words of Paul the Apostle in the book of Corinthians:

Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

– 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NKJV)

4 Steps to Deal with Porn Addiction

I believe the below steps will help anyone that needs to be helped:

1. Ask God for Help

Too many people including yours truly have not really mastered asking God for help. Sometimes we feel God understands and other times we believe we can deal with it on our own. Yes, you have the will power to deal a number of issues yourself but for stuff like addiction God’s grace is required.

Don’t just ask God for help to overcome addiction to pornography, trust his to see you through.

2. Keep your Mind Busy

An ideal mind is the devil’s working

This adage was music to my ears while growing up. I heard it from my parents, teachers, Sunday school tutors etc. Long and short is that you have to learn to keep your mind busy all the time. Chaz B of blessed memory used to constantly start his show with “Guard your heart diligently for………”

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Count your Blessings in 2013!

Count your Blessings in 2013!

Today is the very last day of the year of our Lord 2013 and all I can say at the moment is;

When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed,
When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your blessings, see what God hath done!
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

According to Timeless Truths this hymn was first released in 1897 by Johnson Oatman, Jr., if you ask me I’d say it is one of the greatest hymns of all times. Consider the fact that it’s a 100+ years old but its meaning remains as true as it was yesteryear.

Count your Blessings in 2013!For me the message is simple, be thankful for yesterday, today and the future. Let not your heart be troubled or entertain any fear no matter how the year has gone. If the year did not go exactly as planned you still need to thank God, if it was more than you expected, then you should do likewise.

A new year presents a new opportunity to keep trying, to press on, to set new goals, to reach for new heights. Personally, I am not about to relent or throw in the towel. No doubt I have had my fair share of disappointments, dashed hopes and expectations but you know as much as I do that trials and tough times only come to make us stronger. Last year, I wrote about my 4 Biggest Failures if I find time to write about it this year then I’d certainly have more failure stories to tell but certainly more successes as well simply because the more you try, the more you fail and succeed.

On the National level, I pray and believe in a new Nigeria. I would not stop there I’d take action to see that we make giant progress in 2014 – I have added my voice to Gen Voices and I urge you to do same.

On Goal setting, some people have said that setting goals for the new year is a complete waste of time. Well I beg to differ, call me o’skul if you like, I believe in setting goals for each year and also reviewing of long-term goals. Goal setting works for me because I put my heart to it and I believe it can work for you as well. Most importantly you must learn to put your trust in the Lord Jesus and surrender all to him – He’d surely take care of you in the new year.

On behalf of my family and the entire CFA team, I wish you and your loved ones a happy and prosperous 2014. May it be a year you would truly count your blessings and name them one by one irrespective of what happens.

God bless you!

I am happy project

Join us in the Ten Days of Happiness Event.

Have you ever come across 10 ways to be Happy on this blog?

The guy behind iis inviting you to unique event called10 Days of Happiness.

This initiative is designed to help individuals develop sustainable happiness while making the world a better place.

Tired of the negative messages about the economy, the recession and other doom and gloom coming from the media? Well, now you can do something about it; you can focus on the good things in your life and the community while working to make improvements. The “I Am happy Project,” the brainchild of Edwin Edebiri (a Nigerian-American), popular called the Chief Happiness Officer based in Corning, California, is inviting people worldwide to participate in a “10 Days of Happiness” campaign which will run from February 1.
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Happiness is your right so grab any opportunity to be happy

Participants are encouraged to join the Global happiness Conference Call at 4 pm pacific or 7pm eastern to focus on one of the project’s manifesto “Ten Ways to Be happy ” for each day of the ten-day period.

There will be different speakers feature on each day of this happiness event:

Day 1: Happiness Item # 10 Create a goal or dream list and work diligently towards them.

Day 2: Item # 9 Be active and make healthy choices.

Day 3: Item # 8 Learn to manage your time and your money.

Day 4: Item # 7 Create a list of all the things that make you unhappy and find a solution or ways to eliminate them.

Day 5: Item # 6 Create a list of all the things you are thankful for or that make you happy.

Day 6: Item # 5 Make time for the 3 F’s: Faith, Family & Friends.

Day 7: Item # 4 Donate your money according to your pocket, even if it is a dime.

Day 8: Item # 3 Volunteer your time one on one or to a group.

Day 9: Item # 2 Smile more and learn to laugh at yourself.

Day 10: Item # 1 Decide to be happy and make it your top priority.

Join us each day at 4pm pacific or 7pm east coast time. Please adjust for your time zone. Click here to convert to your time zone.

Call in number is (712) 432-0900 access code is 391022 or via skype.

Skype Instructions

To join the conference calls using Skype, first add “freeconferencing.7124320900” to your contacts. Please do that now. At the schedule date and time of conference call, select the contact and click call. Next, you will locate the key pad and enter the access code 391022 when prompted.

If you cannot join the live call or miss one or a few days, come back a few days after the period and click on the resources tab and global happiness conference call sub tab for all the recordings day by day.

About the happiness foundation

The I Am Happy Project is a registered non-profit organization with over 8,000 Happy People in 56 cities and 16 countries.

Our Mission: “To spread happiness globally, one person at a time”